It is ok to lose your shit sometimes because if you keep your shit, you’ll end up full of shit and then you’ll explode and there’ll be shit everywhere. A shit storm. And nobody wants that.
— Higher Perspective (from Facebook feed)
Just close your eyes for a second and visualise the mental image created by this quote.
I know if I don’t have a rant about something it bottles up and festers, then eventually the tiniest thing makes me explode. When that happens, people don’t see all the background that went into creating the explosion. All they see is that I ‘overreacted’ to something really trivial.
There are people I admire because they always seem so cool, calm and collected. Nothing seems to rattle them. Something catastrophic could happen and their response would be, ‘Oh well. It happens. No point in worrying about it.’
I used to wish I was like that.
I know it isn’t healthy to get all wound up over every little thing that annoys you or doesn’t go your way. There are some things that really are out of our control, and no amount of fuss or bother is going to change that. (She says, knowing that she should really practise what she preaches.)
But surely, keeping all of your emotions and frustrations inside you isn’t healthy either. Isn’t that why people get ulcers, or are forced to take stress-leave? I haven’t had an ulcer or stress-leave because I lose my shit often.
Sometimes a really good foot-stomping, teeth gnashing, foul-mouthed tantrum is just what you need. (My mother and grandmother would disagree with the foul mouthed bit, but sometimes a well placed curse word is absolutely cathartic and the only thing that works.)
There is, however, a time and place for everything.
I will be the first to admit (before someone else says it for me) there has been many a time I have lost my shit in a not-so-appropriate venue, in front of people I really shouldn’t have. But, that is something I have to live with. I fully suspect (hope) that these have been the times when I have bottled up said shit behind a dam-wall, and the resulting explosion has created the shit-storm.
If I have done that to you, I apologise — unless you deserved it.
I have found a new outlet for losing my shit. This blog. It’s wonderful. I write what comes to mind (or what has been festering) and it feels great!
As for you, if you don’t like it, you can click the X button any time you like. I shan’t be offended.
But, if you feel like agreeing, disagreeing or adding your ideas, thoughts and experiences in the comments section, I welcome that too.